Over use..."I LOVE YOU!!"

I tell Skye all the time that he's a good man. I don't mean that to boost his ego, but to affirm him that he really is a good man, all around. Not trying to brag, but seriously we can look all around us and see how "bad" things can get, and because of the fact that things have never gotten "bad" for us, he is a good man. I trust him, I admire him, he is my world hero.
My point, I was talking to a friend of mine and I mentioned that Skye was still sleeping (night shift) and that I hadn't talked to him yet today, but that I assume he went to bed soon after he left me a message on facebook. She asked what he said and I just blew it off and said "Oh he said I love you." She was instantly in tears, said that was so precious, we are just so cute, that saying that is important and she hopes I know that. Well, I do, but I didn't realize how much it meant to her.
Skye and I have been together for almost 13 years (give or take a few months of childhood breakups). We started out as kids not knowing how a relationship really worked. We argued over unimportant stuff and because of being so young had a lot of outside involvement that was difficult for us to work though. When Skye decided to joining the AF it was the best decision for him, for me, and I truly believe it has been what made our marriage because the alone time of just me and Skye and God has amazingly made our marriage what it is today. We both believe that if we had stayed in Ohio around all our family, we wouldn't be where we are today.
Ok...back to my point, this hurt my heart. To have her cry over Skye telling me "I love you" which he does many times a day made me so sad. Skye and I joke that "I love you" isn't a strong enough phrase anymore...like it used to be. We've moved to to "I cherish you, and I'm loving you"...and action...not a statement. Loving You, is something I wake up every morning a do, not just state. I love him by supporting him, by serving him, by speaking kindly, being patience. All of which things I am not a pro...but a "work in progress".
I am NO therapist, but over the last year, I've done some major soul searching. I have come to 2 things that I used to do that could terribly hurt my marriage and seriously tired to change. #1, don't belittle. Making my husband look stupid does nothing. #2 saying Thank you. Even in the smallest, it's your job, kind of things...saying Thank you only helps.
There's a song that I am enjoying right now. It's a country song and I love the words.

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Love Like Crazy...Lee Brice
They called him crazy when they started out
Said seventeen's too young to know what loves about
They've been together fifty-eight years now
That’s crazy

He brought home sixty-seven bucks a week
He bought a little 2 bedroom house on Maple Street
Where she blessed him with six more mouths to feed
Yeah that’s crazy

Just ask him how he did it; he'll say pull up a seat
It'll only take a minute, to tell you everything
Be a best friend, tell the truth, and overuse I love you
Go to work, do your best, don't outsmart your common sense
Never let your prayin' knees get lazy
And love like crazy

They called him crazy when he quit his job
Said them home computers, boy they'll never take off
He sold his one man shop to Microsoft
They paid like crazy

Just ask him how he made it
He'll tell you faith and sweat
And the heart of a faithful woman,
Who never let him forget

Be a best friend, tell the truth, and overuse I love you
Go to work, do your best, don't outsmart your common sense
Never let your prayin knees get lazy
And love like crazy

Always treat your woman like a lady
Never get too old to call her baby
Never let your prayin knees get lazy
And love like crazy

They called him crazy when they started out
They've been together fifty-eight years now

Ain't that crazy?

My favorite line is: "Over Use 'I Love You'" That is SO true. You can NEVER say I love you enough...no matter what. It's always good for the soul and spoken sincerely and backed up with true actions, can always mend a hurt heart!